No matter how you look at it, it’s natural to feel bad after being “rejected”. Especially if it’s someone you really like. The most important thing though is to realize that the discord you feel is only temporary and you are the one who gets to decide just how much it affects you.
There’s the easy way and the hard way to go about it. I’m about to give you the easiest and most graceful and drama free way to go about any breakup because with so many wonderful men out there, the last thing you need to do is waste time mending your heart from one. If you’re dating, you should be out there having fun and feeling great! No excuses.
I remember back when I would take rejection so hard. I was literally afraid of getting too close to anyone because I expected that any relationship would only last so long before they were walking away leaving me completely heart broken and angry.
A lot of times when someone breaks up with us, we blame them, get angry at them and swear we’ll never talk to them again. We feel justified in our anger and usually our girlfriends are right there encouraging our anger and telling us we “deserve better”. But I started thinking, why does getting angry at a guy for not sticking around feel so awful? It always felt like I was hurting myself more by being angry or by trying to hold onto hope that he would come back. After all, any woman is way too good to wait around for anyone. Am I right? If a man can’t step up and inspire you, you’d best be moving on.
Anyway, the reason anger feels so horrible is because it’s not natural for us! We are at our very basic, love. We want love, we are inspired by love, we are happiest when we are giving love and our whole life is seeking more and more self-love. Anger is the opposite of love. It isolates us from the natural connection that holds us all together so when we feel and act out of anger, we isolate ourselves from our natural connection to others.
But to love feels so good to us…naturally because it’s what comes natural. You can love everyone unconditionally but where people get caught up is they think that to love someone means you have to actively have them in your life. We often let people walk all over us because we love them and we end up putting our love for ourselves last. But to love someone does not mean you have to let them have their way with you and somehow be accepting of this.
Just love them from a distance. Let that man walk away from you and appreciate that he has his own path to follow. You have to let people be free to find their own happiness just as you wish to find yours. You can accept someone and appreciate the journey they are on without having them actively present in your life. Appreciate the time you had with them, the good times and silently wish them well.
Lose their number, lose any communication with them and most importantly lose the anger! When you can appreciate that they are their own person on their own path in life and that they are not responsible for making you happy, it’s easy to let go of the anger and feel appreciation for what they did contribute to your life. And you know what? They will respect you so much more because most men are used to us crazy women freaking out on them! But if there’s one thing all single moms have in common, it’s appreciation for happiness. We don’t waste time moaning and bitching about things because we know the value of happiness. So let go of any anger you may have for ex’s because you don’t have time to waste on being angry.
Your heart is free
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