Dear Girl,
I wish every person in the universe could see what I see when I Iook at you. But that is the wish of every mother, and the world isn’t always as kind.
Being a beautiful, intelligent, and Soulful female is Wonderful Blessing, but it is NOT without its own setbacks. Sometimes people will dislike you Just For THAT. Try not to let them. Force them to see your heart.
Girls are tough sells, they’re tough at 12 and just as much so at 30. I wish I could tell you it will get easier, but it won’t. All outstanding women have other women that hate them for no reason. It’s the most ridiculous and self-doubting way to be, and I am so thankful you are not like that. The girls you meet who are confident, smart, and beautiful in their own right will be wise enough to want another loyal comrade, and they will find one in you. I heard once that you can not only well define a person by who their friends are, but by who their enemies are as well. I ( and a lot of other people) look at the girls who decide ‘not to like you’, and we see jealousy and insecurity. But not you. You see pain. You see a need for attention. You see a HUMAN BEING. Even when others are unkind to you, you NEVER stoop low enough to be unkind back. The Momma Bear in me sometimes WISHES YOU WOULD, but the Soulful Human in me knows that YOU ARE RIGHT. I stand in complete AWE of the heart within you. I wish I could be half the GENUINE Human Being that you are.
But even as you go thru hard days and times, and YOU WILL because WE ALL DO .. you are so lucky. You are like your mom, you are blessed with many gifts of True Friendship. And just LOOK at our girlfriends! They are wise, strong, loyal, and beautiful, inside and out. It never occurred to any of us to be jealous or insecure about each other because we are all the same! Those friendships will see you thru your darkest hours, your toughest days, and your most beautiful moments. I would tell you to cherish those friends, but I already watch you do it Every Day.
I promise you that for every dark minute you have you will have an hour of sunshine. For every “hater” you cross, you will have a FRIEND waiting in your path, and for every negative thing you hear, you will hear a hundred positives.
If at all possible, turn an “enemy” into a friend .. if not, let them fade into the backdrops of the scenery of your life. Nourish the friendships you do have. I cannot possibly put to words how important I think it is. My own friends have gotten me thru times I cant even imagine having gone thru alone. But most of all .. Be YOU. Don’t EVER be scared to be Beautiful ~ You ARE. Don’t EVER ‘dumb it down’. MOST IMPORTANTLY ~ Don’t EVER lose site of that understanding and incredible heart within you.
You are DESTINED for Greatness. And I’ll be with you every step of the way.
I LOVE YOU,
Mom
“Don’t you worry your pretty little mind
People throw rocks at things that shine” ~ Taylor Swift
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