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The Overachievers: The Secret Lives
of Driven Kids
By Alexandra Robbins
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Hyperion; 1st edition 2006;
Sources by
Amanda U. Bach
By Alexandra Robbins
Hyperion; 1st edition 2006;
ISBN: 1401302017
Many
students don't wait until college to attempt to break free. As C.J.
suggested, high school students might not drink because of peer pressure.
They drink because of pressure, period. They drink because of pressure to be
superlative. They drink because of pressure to be perfect. Consider all of
the other factors that high school students have to deal with in addition to
academic stress. Besides the full-time job of overachieving, students deal
extensively with social, psychological, romantic, identity, and family
issues while at the same time trying to navigate adolescence. None of these
pressures lets up after the bell rings at the end of the school day. Students can get so tightly wound, it's
understandable that they search for outlets to let off steam. Drinking
alcohol happens to be one of the most popular methods, perhaps not
surprisingly, given adults' habits of imbibing to unwind. Like adults, many
students say they "need a drink" to escape the stress and pressure of their
daily lives. By the time they reach twelfth grade, almost 80 percent of
students have consumed alcohol, and nearly a third have engaged in binge
drinking, defined as having five or more drinks on one occasion. By eighth
grade, almost half of all students have tried alcohol, and more than 20
percent say they have been drunk. At the college level, campuses report
record increases in binge drinking. As University of Virginia professor John
Portmann told Psychology Today, "There is a ritual every university
administrator has come to fear. Every fall, parents drop off their
well-groomed freshmen, and within two or three days, many have consumed a
dangerous amount of alcohol and placed themselves in harm's way. These kids
have been controlled for so long, they just go crazy." The statistically good news is that
nationwide, illicit drug use is on the decline. (Illegal use of prescription
drugs is on the upswing, however, as discussed in Chapter Fourteen.) But the
sad fact is that students who try these substances often do so less out of
rebelliousness than out of escapism. As a Massachusetts junior told me, "I
turned to drugs and alcohol because I felt the need to escape everything. I
no longer do any of that because I realize it was dangerous and stupid.
Sometimes I do think about it, though. Everything seemed much simpler when I
could escape the pain and loss of control." For many students, there's another outlet
that falls under the umbrella of "partying" to relieve stress: sex, or just
fooling around. "I suppose I went to extremes because of the amount I was
working and the reputation I had," a California senior said. "I enjoyed
being the valedictorian who could still get drunk or high or have sex on the
weekends. My friends knew me as someone who would study until late at night,
then go out with a guy, and wake up on Saturday morning to go running and
then study all day. It's funny to think that being a good student led to me
trying dangerous things, but I think I was just trying to break the mold." When I asked her what adults might not know
about today's high school experience, she expounded on why she partied. "I
was definitely very stressed, and I worked very hard. Long nights studying,
job shadows, college classes, internships, SATs, sports, all at the same
time as balancing a social life. This could be why students do things to
such extremes. There is a sense of urgency and pressure. Many of my friends
and I would drink to the point of blacking out. Every time. I would have sex
with guys the first time I hooked up with them, because I didn't want to
waste time. I think I came out fine, and I was happy with how I balanced
work and play. But I don't think adults realize what high schoolers are
capable of. They think that if we work hard and appear to follow the rules,
then we won't make mistakes." More than 60 percent of twelfth graders
have had sex, and health centers say students are experimenting with sex at
younger ages. In recent years, middle schoolers have been caught having sex
on school buses. In Pennsylvania, a group of middle school girls who called
themselves the "Pop-Tarts" offered blow jobs at parties. And in high school,
some students are using sex as a tool to attempt to break out of the cage. A midwestern Latina student felt imprisoned
by her parents' pressure to be the perfect college applicant. They refused
to allow her to take art or music because the classes weren't APs, and they
forced her to take Spanish classes, even though she was fluent, to get the
easy A. They also insisted she become a cheerleader, though she disliked it,
so she would have an extracurricular activity to bolster her college
application. When she wasn't at school, her cage became more literal: Her
father locked her in her room, where she was expected to do nothing but
study. Because she wasn't allowed to leave the house during the weeks before
the SAT, she took to sneaking out late at night. Just before the test, the
sixteen-year-old sneaked out to have sex with her boyfriend to relieve her
stress -- and had a pregnancy scare. To this day her parents don't know
about the home pregnancy tests she frantically took then and twice more in
the ensuing months, or that she then turned to alcohol as another escape. Locked in her room as the SAT neared, she
was forbidden to take breaks, relax, or chat with friends. Burned out and
stressed beyond belief, the non-drinker skipped school soon after the test
to try to relax at a friend's house, where she had two beers. A police
officer happened to catch the students, arrested them, and jailed them for
the day. Her parents didn't speak to her for a week, but not because of the
arrest. They were furious because of her 1300 (out of 1600) SAT score.
REVIEWS
From Publishers Weekly
In this engrossing anthropological study of the cult of
overachieving that is prevalent in many middle-and upper-class schools,
Robbins (Pledged: The Secret Life of Sororities) follows the lives of
students from a Bethesda, Md., high school as they navigate the SAT and
college application process. These students are obsessed with success,
contending with illness, physical deterioration (senior Julie is losing hair
over the pressure to get into Stanford), cheating (students sell a physics
project to one another), obsessed parents ( Frank's mother manages his time
to the point of abuse) and emotional breakdowns. What matters to them is
that all-important acceptance to the right name-brand school. "When
teenagers inevitably look at themselves through the prism of our
overachiever culture," Robbins writes, "they often come to the conclusion
that no matter how much they achieve, it will never be enough." The
portraits of the teens are compelling and make for an easy read. Robbins
provides a series of critiques of the system, including college rankings,
parental pressure, the meaninglessness of standardized testing and the push
for A.P. classes. She ends with a call to action, giving suggestions on how
to alleviate teens' stress and panic at how far behind they feel. (Aug.)
Copyright © Reed Business Information, a division of Reed Elsevier Inc. All
rights reserved.
From
Booklist In
Pledged, Alexandra Robbins followed four college girls to produce a
riveting narrative that read like fiction. Now, in The Overachievers,
Robbins uses the same captivating style to explore how our highstakes
educational culture has spiraled out of control. During the year of her
ten-year reunion, Robbins goes back to her high school, where she follows
heart-tuggingly likeable students including "AP" Frank, who grapples with
horrifying parental pressure to succeed; Audrey, whose panicked
perfectionism overshadows her life; Sam, who worries his years of
overachieving will be wasted if he doesn’t attend a name-brand college;
Taylor, whose ambition threatens her popular girl status; and The Stealth
Overachiever, a mystery junior who flies under the radar.
Robbins tackles teen issues such as intense stress, the student and teacher
cheating epidemic, sports rage, parental guilt, the black market for study
drugs, and a college admissions process so cutthroat that students are
driven to suicide and depression because of a B.
With a compelling mix of fast-paced narrative and fascinating investigative
journalism, The Overachievers aims both to calm the admissions frenzy
and to expose its escalating dangers.
About
the
Author: In her spare time, Robbins,
who graduated in 1998 from Yale, plays on three soccer teams, watches NFL
games, bakes pies and reminisces about the original Star Wars trilogy. Please visit her Website:
www.alexandrarobbins.com
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