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Just because you’ve always done something one way doesn’t mean it’s the right way. Remember how much your life improved when you finally gave up super-low-rise jeans, dating only bad boys, and dial-up modems? Relationship experts say that ditching the following seven love rules can be just as liberating — maybe more.

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Talking Books

by Stephanie Holbrook, on behalf of the National Library Service, Library of Congress

Talking Books, a free program offered by the National Library Service for the Blind and Physically Handicapped (NLS), Library of Congress, helps provide eligible students with the reading materials they need to succeed. For blind and physically handicapped people, this nationwide program delivers classic literature, bestsellers and many magazines to keep them up to speed and on top of their studies. For host families who may not have the resources to care for a child with a disability, NLS Talking Books acts as a way to provide that family with a free method of providing the best and most comfortable living situation they can for their adopted family. A no cost program to host families who take in displaced families with blind or physically handicapped children. Please help promote this program on your web or in the material you give to host families. Please call 1-888-NLS-READ (1-888-657-7323) or go to www.loc.gov/nls/find.html for a directory of cooperating local libraries participating in the Talking Books program and for enrollment information.

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Single Mom Dating Tips from Ms. Single Mama


I have been a dating single mom for over two years now.
And the first thing I can tell you is this - it's not easy. First you have to get past your divorce, the heartbreak, the anger and the tears. And then, once you are finally ready to get back out there, you have to factor in the kids and their feelings.
Here are a few of my single mom dating advice articles that are a good base. Start here and then come back to my blog every day, because as you'll soon see - I'm learning as I go!

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What is postpartum depression?

 

contributed by Amanda Bach

What is postpartum depression?

 

Postpartum depression is a treatable medical illness characterized by feelings of sadness, indifference, blue, unhappy, miserable, or down in the dumps, exhaustion and anxiety following the birth of your baby.

 

Most of us feel this way at one time or another for short periods. But true clinical depression is a mood disorder in which feelings of sadness, loss, anger, or frustration interfere with everyday life for an extended time. Depression can be mild, moderate, or severe. The degree of depression, which your doctor can determine, influences how you are treated.

 

It affects one in every ten women who have had a child, and can affect any woman, regardless of her age, race or economic background. It is not a character flaw or sign of personal weakness, and it does not mean that there is anything wrong with your ability to be a mother. The exact cause of postpartum depression is not known, but certain chemical changes that take place in your body during and after pregnancy may contribute to it.

 

How common is depression during and after pregnancy?

 

Depression that occurs during pregnancy or within a year after delivery is called perinatal depression. The exact number of women with depression during this time is unknown. But researchers believe that depression is one of the most common complications during and after pregnancy. Often, the depression is not recognized or treated, because some normal pregnancy changes cause similar symptoms and are happening at the same time. Tiredness, problems sleeping, stronger emotional reactions, and changes in body weight may occur during pregnancy and after pregnancy. But these symptoms may also be signs of depression.

 

What causes depression?

 

There may be a number of reasons why a woman gets depressed. Hormone changes or a stressful life event, such as a death in the family, can cause chemical changes in the brain that lead to depression. Depression is also an illness that runs in some families. Other times, it’s not clear what causes depression.

 

During Pregnancy

 

During pregnancy, these factors may increase a woman’s chance of depression:

 

History of depression or substance abuse

 

Family history of mental illness

 

Little support from family and friends

 

Anxiety about the fetus

 

Problems with previous pregnancy or birth

 

Marital or financial problems

 

Young age (of mother)

 

After Pregnancy

 

Depression after pregnancy is called postpartum depression or peripartum depression. After pregnancy, hormonal changes in a woman's body may trigger symptoms of depression. During pregnancy, the amount of two female hormones, estrogen and progesterone, in a woman's body increases greatly. In the first 24 hours after childbirth, the amount of these hormones rapidly drops back down to their normal non-pregnant levels. Researchers think the fast change in hormone levels may lead to depression, just as smaller changes in hormones can affect a woman's moods before she gets her menstrual period.

 

Occasionally, levels of thyroid hormones may also drop after giving birth. The thyroid is a small gland in the neck that helps to regulate your metabolism (how your body uses and stores energy from food). Low thyroid levels can cause symptoms of depression including depressed mood, decreased interest in things, irritability, fatigue, difficulty concentrating, sleep problems, and weight gain. A simple blood test can tell if this condition is causing a woman's depression. If so, thyroid medicine can be prescribed by a doctor.

 

Other factors that may contribute to postpartum depression include:

 

Feeling tired after delivery, broken sleep patterns, and not enough rest often keeps a new mother from regaining her full strength for weeks.

 

Feeling overwhelmed with a new, or another, baby to take care of and doubting your ability to be a good mother.

 

Feeling stress from changes in work and home routines. Sometimes, women think they have to be "super mom" or perfect, which is not realistic and can add stress.

 

Having feelings of loss — loss of identity of who you are, or were, before having the baby, loss of control, loss of your pre-pregnancy figure, and feeling less attractive.

 

Having less free time and less control over time. Having to stay home indoors for longer periods of time and having less time to spend with the your partner and loved ones.

 

What are the symptoms of postpartum depression?

 

Any of these symptoms during and after pregnancy that last longer than two weeks are signs of depression:

 

Feelings of sadness or "down"-ness that don’t go away, hopeless, and overwhelmed

 

Inability to sleep, even when the baby is sleeping

 

Changes in appetite – eating much more or much less

 

Irritability, anger, worry, agitation, anxiety

 

Inability to concentrate or make decisions

 

Inability to enjoy things you used to; lack of interest in the baby; lack of interest in friends and family

 

Exhaustion; feeling "heavy"

 

Uncontrollable crying

 

Feelings of guilt or worthlessness

 

Feelings of hopelessness or despair

 

Fear of being a "bad" mother, or that others will think you are

 

Fear that harm will come to the baby

 

Thoughts of harming the baby or harming yourself

 

Thoughts of death or suicide

 

Feeling restless or irritable

 

Crying a lot

 

Having no energy or motivation

 

Eating too little or too much

 

Sleeping too little or too much

 

Trouble focusing, remembering, or making decisions

 

Feeling worthless and guilty

 

Loss of interest or pleasure in activities

 

Withdrawal from friends and family

 

Having headaches, chest pains, heart palpitations (the heart beating fast and feeling like it is skipping beats), or hyperventilation (fast and shallow breathing)

 

After pregnancy, signs of depression may also include being afraid of hurting the baby or oneself and not having any interest in the baby.

 

Get help right away if you have any thoughts of harming your baby or yourself. Tell a medical professional, clergy member, loved one or friend immediately.

 

What are some risk factors for postpartum depression?

 

A history of depression during or after previous pregnancies

 

A history of depression or bipolar disorder at any time

 

A history of depression, bipolar disorder or postpartum depression in blood relatives

 

Poor social support

 

Unpleasant life events happening around the time of the pregnancy or birth

 

Instability in your marriage or relationship

 

Feeling unsure or ambivalent about your pregnancy

 

What can I do about postpartum depression?

 

Talk to your doctor about all of your symptoms, your medical history and any medications or "natural" remedies you are using.

 

Consider taking medication – ask your doctor which medications are least likely to pass into breast milk.

 

Consider psychotherapy – find a therapist or counselor with whom you feel comfortable, who can help you cope with the feelings you are having.

 

Do your own research to learn more about postpartum depression and its treatment at your local library or on the internet.

 

Become part of a support group, where you will be able to share your thoughts and feelings in a caring environment with people who have "been there."

 

Eat balanced meals at regular times.

 

Do light exercise, such as walking.

 

Work with a therapist or counselor to develop stress reduction techniques.

 

Give family and friends opportunities to help you, such as doing housework or watching older children.

 

Use a journal to express your thoughts and feelings, and record changes in your moods.

 

What is the difference between “baby blues,”postpartum depression, and postpartum psychosis?

 

The baby blues can happen in the days right after childbirth and normally go away within a few days to a week. A new mother can have sudden mood swings, sadness, crying spells, loss of appetite, sleeping problems, and feel irritable, restless, anxious, and lonely. Symptoms are not severe and treatment isn’t needed. But there are things you can do to feel better. Nap when the baby does. Ask for help from your spouse, family members, and friends. Join a support group of new moms or talk with other moms.

 

Postpartum depression can happen anytime within the first year after childbirth. A woman may have a number of symptoms such as sadness, lack of energy, trouble concentrating, anxiety, and feelings of guilt and worthlessness. The difference between postpartum depression and the baby blues is that postpartum depression often affects a woman’s well-being and keeps her from functioning well for a longer period of time. Postpartum depression needs to be treated by a doctor. Counseling, support groups, and medicines are things that can help.

 

Postpartum psychosis is rare. It occurs in 1 or 2 out of every 1000 births and usually begins in the first 6 weeks postpartum. Women who have bipolar disorder or another psychiatric problem called schizoaffective disorder have a higher risk for developing postpartum psychosis. Symptoms may include delusions, hallucinations, sleep disturbances, and obsessive thoughts about the baby. A woman may have rapid mood swings, from depression to irritability to euphoria. What steps can I take if I have symptoms of depression during pregnancy or after childbirth?

 

Some women don’t tell anyone about their symptoms because they feel embarrassed, ashamed, or guilty about feeling depressed when they are supposed to be happy. They worry that they will be viewed as unfit parents. Perinatal depression can happen to any woman. It does not mean you are a bad or “not together” mom. You and your baby don’t have to suffer. There is help.

 

There are different types of individual and group “talk therapies” that can help a woman with perinatal depression feel better and do better as a mom and as a person. Limited research suggests that many women with perinatal depression improve when treated with anti-depressant medicine. Your doctor can help you learn more about these options and decide which approach is best for you and your baby. The next section contains more detailed information about available treatments.

 

Speak to your doctor or midwife if you are having symptoms of depression while you are pregnant or after you deliver your baby. Your doctor or midwife can give you a questionnaire to test for depression and can also refer you to a mental health professional who specializes in treating depression.

 

Here are some other helpful tips:

 

Try to get as much rest as you can. Try to nap when the baby naps.

 

Stop putting pressure on yourself to do everything. Do as much as you can and leave the rest!

 

Ask for help with household chores and nighttime feedings. Ask your husband or partner to bring the baby to you so you can breastfeed. If you can, have a friend, family member, or professional support person help you in the home for part of the day.

 

Talk to your husband, partner, family, and friends about how you are feeling.

 

Do not spend a lot of time alone. Get dressed and leave the house. Run an errand or take a short walk.

 

Spend time alone with your husband or partner.

 

Talk with other mothers, so you can learn from their experiences.

 

Join a support group for women with depression. Call a local hotline or look in your telephone book for information and services.

 

Don’t make any major life changes during pregnancy. Major changes can cause unneeded stress. Sometimes big changes cannot be avoided. When that happens, try to arrange support and help in your new situation ahead of time.

 

How is depression treated?

 

There are two common types of treatment for depression.

 

Talk therapy. This involves talking to a therapist, psychologist, or social worker to learn to change how depression makes you think, feel, and act.

 

Medicine. Your doctor can give you an antidepressant medicine to help you. These medicines can help relieve the symptoms of depression.

 

Women who are pregnant or breastfeeding should talk with their doctors about the advantages and risks of taking antidepressant medicines. Some women are concerned that taking these medicines may harm the baby. A mother’s depression can affect her baby’s development, so getting treatment is important for both mother and baby. The risks of taking medicine have to be weighed against the risks of depression. It is a decision that women need to discuss carefully with their doctors. Women who decide to take antidepressant medicines should talk to their doctors about which antidepressant medicines are safer to take while pregnant or breastfeeding. What effects can untreated depression have?

 

Depression not only hurts the mother, but also affects her family. Some researchers have found that depression during pregnancy can raise the risk of delivering an underweight baby or a premature infant. Some women with depression have difficulty caring for themselves during pregnancy. They may have trouble eating and won’t gain enough weight during the pregnancy; have trouble sleeping; may miss prenatal visits; may not follow medical instructions; have a poor diet; or may use harmful substances, like tobacco, alcohol, or illegal drugs.

 

Postpartum depression can affect a mother’s ability to parent. She may lack energy, have trouble concentrating, be irritable, and not be able to meet her child’s needs for love and affection. As a result, she may feel guilty and lose confidence in herself as a mother, which can worsen the depression. Researchers believe that postpartum depression can affect the infant by causing delays in language development, problems with emotional bonding to others, behavioral problems, lower activity levels, sleep problems, and distress. It helps if the father or another caregiver can assist in meeting the needs of the baby and other children in the family while mom is depressed.

 

All children deserve the chance to have a healthy mom. All moms deserve the chance to enjoy their life and their children. Don’t suffer alone. If you are experiencing symptoms of depression during pregnancy or after having a baby, please tell a loved one and call you doctor or midwife right away.

 

  www.dbsalliance.org offers a variety of FREE educational materials that you may download. You may also order via phone by calling (800) 826-3632.

 

Sources:

Please visit these sites for more help.

You can find out more about depression during and after pregnancy by contacting the National Women's Health Information Center (NWHIC) at 1-800-994-9662 or the following organizations.

 

  The Natonal Women's Health Information Center

Depression after pregnancy is called postpartum depression or peripartum depression.

 

  National Institute of Mental Health, NIH, HHS

Phone: (301) 496-9576

Overviews; Postpartum Depression (National Women's Health Information Center)

Also available in: Spanish; Postpartum Depression (Mayo Foundation for Medical).

 

  National Mental Health Information Center, SAMHSA, HHS

Phone: (800) 789-2647

 

  American Psychological Association

Phone: (800) 374-2721

 

  National Mental Health Association

Phone: (800) 969-NMHA

 

  Postpartum Education for Parents

Phone: (805) 564-3888

 

  Postpartum Support International

Phone: (800) 773-6667

 

  Depression After Delivery

Phone: (800) 944-4773

 

  Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance

Depression after pregnancy is called postpartum depression or peripartum depression... Other factors that may contribute to postpartum depression include: ...

 

  KidsHealth.org Information - The most visited site for children health

The morning sickness, the weight gain, and the hours of labor are all finally over - and you're now the proud mother of a beautiful baby.

 

  FamilyDoctor.org - from the American Academy of Family Physicians

Information for women about postpartum depression and the 'baby blues' from the American Academy of Family Physicians.

 

Contributor:

Amanda Bach was raised by a single mom and so she learned it first hand how difficult it was to watch her mom struggled everyday life. And that is the main reason she co-founded SingleMom.com™ to create this wonderful Website/organization. Her energy, natural creative ability and superior business intuition make her contributions to this website immeasurable. Her hobbies include volunteer, Internet, reading, ballet, traveling, snowboarding, and especially wine & food.

 

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