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Single Mom -Day to Day

How I focused a spiritual lens on celebrities

Jenny Roemer  from www.spirituality.com

 

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You could have called me a celebrity junkie. It’s not a term I like, but on a typical lunch break at work you’d find me surfing the Internet to find articles about the latest pop singers or to get the skinny on celebrity romances. And if you tried to talk to me in line at the grocery store—forget it. I’d have my nose buried in the magazines at the checkout displays.

In conversation with friends, I would claim to know who was a better actress or singer, who was a real witch to work with on the movie set, who dressed the best. And sometimes I would whine to myself that my life didn't seem as polished as the lives of my famous “friends.”

Was I getting hooked on celebrity? Well, I sure didn't like how eagerly I snapped to attention when new entertainment headlines came up on my computer screen. And I was surprised by how caught up I was in examining people's flaws and choosing who to criticize.

I began to feel like part of the paparazzi.
This preoccupation with the lives of the rich and famous would have been easy to laugh off as boredom or harmless fun, but I began to feel like part of the paparazzi. Maybe I wasn't driving through the streets of Beverly Hills with a camera, but clicking from Web site to Web site at high speed made me feel I wasn't too far behind.

It was dizzying, trying to keep up with all this information. Often by the time I was done with my "binge" I felt as if I'd eaten a whole bag of cheese curls.

But the worst part of these binges was the aftermath: my harsh and incorrect judgment not only of the celebrities, but also of myself. And my preoccupation with comparing myself to them began to whittle away time I wanted to spend focusing on what I was learning about my spiritual nature, my innate goodness as God’s child—a truth that applies to everyone.

I wanted to take my cues from God's loving nature.
I think of God as Love—as the Source of all that is good and loving and beautiful. This divine Love provides me with healthy thoughts and helps me make sound and progressive choices. I wanted to take my cues from God's loving nature and be more consistent in my appreciation of others. I knew this approach could only help me form better thoughts about myself.

I’m inspired by something Mary Baker Eddy wrote in her book, Science and Health: “Let us rid ourselves of the belief that man is separated from God, and obey only the divine Principle, Life and Love. Here is the great point of departure for all true spiritual growth.” It occurred to me that if I wanted to be obedient to Love, I could consciously protest any mean-spirited thoughts I was having about celebrities and their apparently flawless lifestyles. After all, I didn't really know who these people were, or what it was like to live a life under the microscope.

My protest against cruel remarks and conclusions was based on a conscious decision not to participate in anything that went against my natural, loving nature. I decided to shield my thoughts from envy and cynicism—to actively practice more compassion, which comes directly from divine Love.

I decided to stop muscling my way to the edge of the red carpet.
I wanted the way I was treating and even thinking about others to have a positive, supportive effect. And that included celebrities. I didn't want to waste mental space with my own version of celebrity "spam"—thoughts that harshly criticized stars in public conversations.

It's been a few months since I decided to stop muscling my way to the edge of the red carpet. I think I'm making progress in how I spend my time online and how I'm thinking about celebrity in general. I still check out things like the "best dressed" list in People magazine, but I find I'm not judging celebrities as much as appreciating their unique styles. And I've become more interested in stories that describe interesting acting roles or speak to how a celeb balances work and family. In fact, when I heard the recent news about a Hollywood couple’s breakup, I found myself feeling compassion instead of engaging in the gossip and speculation surrounding their split.

Now my interest in entertainment and celebrities is definitely more about having fun than being a critic. I'm taking a balanced approach and letting divine Love weigh in on my decisions and viewpoints.

 

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