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FOURTH WEEK OF OCTOBER
"I have a child with a convicted man."
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#301002.01
Q:
Dear Joy, Hi,
I am 19 years old. I have a 4 weeks old
daughter whom I gave birth to at 28 weeks
gestation. She is still in the hospital. She
will be coming home in a month. I have
a problem that I don't know how to deal
with...to make a long story short well... I
met a man over my cell phone chat rooms. We
met and dated very briefly.
The last time I
saw him was the night her got me pregnant. I
never planned on having sex with the guy.
In fact, I don't even remember. The
only way I knew how it happened was because
I woke up naked and dirty feeling. I
can't call it a rape because I was very
intoxicated and I don't remember much.
I haven't talked to him since.
I later found out that he lied about
everything he told me. He is 43 years old
with an extensive criminal record (many
charges including many felonies). He
never knew that I was pregnant and now does
not know that he has a baby girl.
Because of what I've been through with him
and his record, I don't want him to be near
me or my daughter. I do need financial
help though. I don't know what to do
anymore. I cry myself to sleep every night.
He was a huge mistake, but my daughter is a
gift from God. What can I do? I need
financial help without him trying to be in
her life. I know if he find out about
my daughter, he would want to see her.
I moved 1000 miles away to live at home so I
wouldn't be in the same State as him.
I can ramble on, but I don't want to take up
anymore of your time. Thank you, E.
A:
Dear E.,
I'm sorry to hear what happened to you.
We all make mistake in our life and we all
learn from it. You learn it in a hard way.
I'm glad you know that was a big mistake
that you did. However, the best part
is you and your daughter are both healthy.
What you did is right since this man can be
dangerous to you and your daughter; it's
best that you moved away from him. However,
running away from him, doesn't solve any
problem, does it? You can't get any
child support from this man, unless he is
aware that he is the father. Plus of this
man is currently working. What can I
tell you right now. Just like many of our
visitors, they become single mother without
any idea how difficult it will be to take
care a child emotionally, physically, and
most of all financially. Please
believe in yourself. Its' not the end of the
world yet, isn't it. There's a lot of
things you could have done if you could turn
back time. However, things already happened.
You have a beautiful daughter in the
hospital that needs your help, care &
support tremendously. Please be strong
for her.
There isn't much help out there for single
mother. However, if you are working with low
income, you may qualify for certain program
at your local county. Please contact your
Social Services Department for more
information. You can apply for food
stamp, Medical, and some financial help if
you are qualified. Here is a few sites that
might help you out.
http://www.fns.usda.gov/wic/
- The WIC program for women, infants & children.
They offer variety of helps through local agencies & offices with
toll free number & much more.
Take good care
of yourself & best wishes to you.
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